2021.09.25 08:56 dplyr_tidyr What is a harmless question people routinely ask that you hate to answer?
2021.09.25 08:56 jordannafoxx Smart whales are moving into $VICE
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2021.09.25 08:56 Luunaer Just a question
Hey guys! I finally got my cute amazing ball python yesterday. He's doing really great and settling in well.
Next week I'm getting another ball python and I went to view her yesterday and it looks like she's got some stuck shed on her head. Just a little patch. She's very sassy, she hissed the whole time the reptile shop worker was holding her. But she quickly calmed down when I gave her a hold and just relaxed, the guy said he didn't like snakes so much so he was quite tense when holding her. I unfortunately did not get chance to take a pic, she was already stressed out so didn't want to further irritate her.
The guy said the breeder they get them from breeds high end morphs and basically any normals that come out of it they get sent to the shop. They aren't handled much or really looked after - which is one of the reasons I decided to get her. We went in to look at a tarantula to get for my partner. So a little bit of me thinks she probably hasn't been looked after that well. She's roughly 3-4 months old, looks a decent weight although maybe a little on the skinny side, a bit angry at life and people so I wanted to give her a loving home.
In terms of my actual question - with regards to the shed it looks like when you get sunburn and it starts to peel. It wasn't a thick layer and there was none around the eyes, just a little patch at the top of her head. Could it be she's starting to shed or is it more likely stuck shed?
Atm she's living in a 20cm square box and will likely stay there until I collect her next weekend. They want to give her 1 feed before she leaves. She's has 4 feeds prior to going to them. I can maintain about 80% humidity throughout the day and night because I'm in the UK and our room keeps nice and humid. Is there anything else you would suggest or will it hopefully come off with her next shed? I've made sure to buy lots of branches and things she can rub her body on to help and I'll be setting that up next week.
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2021.09.25 08:56 Slow-Birthday-4497 My Disappointment is Immeasurable and My Day is Ruined...
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2021.09.25 08:56 12PoundBongPull I am the asshole
TL;DR I fucked up a relationship with my best friend, partner, and someone I have loved my entire adult life.
I was recently engaged for two years to a woman -- I'll call her W -- I had loved for 25 years.
W and I met in college (1996) when she started dating my roommate. I was an awkward, shy 20 year old. She never treated me like I was anything but important. She would talk to me, make me laugh, and I felt better being around her. She became the basis for comparison in every relationship I had. All of them had some of her qualities, but none of them could match her. to be clear, while we were together, I loved and devoted myself every one of my girlfriends and my two ex-wives with all my heart. Things just don't always work out.
After I transferred schools, we didn't see each other as much. She and my roommate married, had kids, and divorced after she found out he'd been cheating on her for a couple years.
After I graduated, I got married to my first wife, "C". It was a trainwreck. She wanted a wedding, I wanted a marriage. About a year and a half in, s she reconnected with an old boyfriend and began spending a lot of time with him sometimes into the wee hours of the morning, I got lost in the shuffle. Self-doubt and the feeling that I was a disappointment to her, and causing her to not want to be with me led me to seek affirmation from other women. I formed close, nonsexual, emotional relationships that gave me an emotional outlet for my feelings of self-doubt. My ex-wife "caught" me having a conversation online and filed for divorce the next day. She ended up married to the old boyfriend within six months of our divorce, reinforcing all the feelings I had that I'd been a disappointment from the get go.
A year of depression and drinking went by. I eventually met another woman, "T". She had two beautiful daughters, one was just under a year, the other was almost 12. I loved them like they were my own children. The downside was there was an hour between us. After a year, she asked me to move to be with her. I agreed. I found a job in her turn, and began preparing to move. When she suddenly got cold feet, we discussed her fear and ultimately I completed the move. I was there for two weeks when she texted that she didn't want to be together and I needed to leave. I went the only place I knew, my parents, and was devastated. I didn't know what I'd done wrong, so again the self-doubt and feeling that I'd disappointed her set in. I contacted her and we talked about things. a month later, we were back together. I was driving back and forth between cities to work. we'd see each other every day, and I started staying the night with her a could nights a week. One morning, as I just arrived at work, my phone buzzed. there was a text that said she didn't want me any longer, and that what stuff I had would be in her shed. That was the last I heard. I was broken again. I had to quit the job because the cost to drive back and forth consumed almost all my pay. I had to ask for my old job back. All the self-doubt came back, and because I was not told what was wrong I'm the relationship, I knew somewhere in there I'd disappointed her.
I started searching for a way back to an easier time. Facebook was just becoming a public site, not just for college students. I set up a page and started seeking out high school and college friends. I searched out my group from my first college, and found W in that process. I found out from another friend that she and my roommate had divorced. She had pictures of her and her new husband. I was happy for her.
Not long after, I formally met my second wife, "A". We were introduced a while I was married to my first wife at her brother's wedding. She was the maid of honor, I was the best man. While I was with the previous girlfriend above, her brother called me and asked if I'd be interested in going on a double date with him and his wife, and his sister. I declined and said I was in a relationship, but thanked him for thinking of me. One Saturday I was at work and they all showed up. I greeted them and flirted with A. They left after a few minutes of talking. The brother's wife came back in and slipped me A's phone number she said, "call her." I called. We started dating, then talked of marriage and children, decided to try for a baby, bought a house, got married, and had a beautiful child. I'd battled depression most of my adult life. I told her about my first wife and the aftermath. We discussed it at family dinners with my parents. I made it known well before we were married that I had a mental illness. Because we were excited new parents, we had our child in our room. As she grew, she started sleeping in bed with us. Our sex life all but disappeared. On nights when my parents would keep our daughter, we were too exhausted to be intimate. We would get home from a date night and go to bed. We tried putting out daughter in her own room at night, but she'd wake up and we'd bring her to our room. Eventually, our bed became too small. I found myself with horrible back pain every morning. I began to sleep on the couch. Depression began to set in. Throughout our courtship and marriage, A's mom was always saying I needed to get a new job, earn more money to buy prom dresses, and cars and things our daughter wouldn't need for years. A's mom requested to apply for jobs for me, and wanted to write my resume. Self-doubt piled onto depression is a bad combination. Again, I began feeling like a disappointment. My depression worsened, and I was trying to hide it. I held it in, trying to protect my family from seeing me hurting, and out of fear that A would be disappointed in me. I'd get up in the night and use the downstairs bathroom where I would cry for what felt like hours. The day came when A couldn't take it anymore. She went on the attack about how I was not acting right, and everyone was concerned. I thought I'd hid it well, but obviously I had not. One thing that people with mental health issues learn is to lie about how they are feeling. I lied. the lies built on lies and led to a further deepening depression. She said she didn't know what was wrong, and I finally let it out. I said depression is not like cancer where it can be cut out. she said, "if I'd have known you had a mental health issue, I'd never have married you. If it hadn't been for our daughter, I'd have left a long time ago." I stayed at my parent's. She filed for divorce the next morning. I'd screwed up and disappointed the mother of my child, my wife, and my partner. I'd held it in to protect them, and to not be a disappointment, and I couldn't even do that right. I not only disappointed her, but I disappointed myself. I got a much better job a few months after the divorce was finalized, and did it on my own. A's mom was beside herself that I did it, and tried to scare me out of taking it. I've now been there almost 10 years.
I dated for a few years. Kept in touch with W. She seemed happy. Her kids were growing up. She was still married. I was also diagnosed as bipolar, which was scary, but also a relief as so many things suddenly made sense.
One day I realized W hadn't been as active on Facebook was she normally was. I hadn't noticed the lack of posts as much because I was busy with my life. I reached out to her and asked if she was okay. She wasn't. She'd gotten divorced a year and a half prior. Get second husband had been molesting her daughter for three years, and she was never aware something horrible was happening. She'd noticed her daughter being more withdrawn, and began taking her to a therapist. During one session, the therapist pulled her in and said she needed to hear something. That was when her world changed. She dropped off Facebook to protect her kids, though her account stayed active. She sent me a picture of them at a comic-con the were attending. we began texting every morning and evening, then began talking on the phone. She invited me down for a weekend to spend time together, and go on a date. Every other weekend I would travel to see her. After a year, I asked her to marry me on Christmas weekend. She said yes, and we immediately told our kids. We celebrated all weekend. She eventually accepted a job and moved to my city. We were finally able to see each other every day, but because she wanted to wait to be married before moving in, I rarely spent the night. Over the next few months, we began planning our wedding. She eventually wanted to talk about finances. Up to that point, I'd been able to pay to do a lot of things. Being held to an actual budget was a scary thought because I liked to do things with our kids and her, and I didn't want to be a disappointment when I would have to say "no." the fear of disappointment made me more scared as I was now with the woman I'd loved for 25 years. I didn't want her to walk away like the others had. I began putting pressure on myself to not be a disappointment. In June, I became involved in a personnel issue at work. my supervisor ended up "resigning". my regional manager didn't seem interested in supporting my office. people looked to me for answers. before they posted my former supervisor's position, I knew I didn't want to apply. the reasons for the "resignation" were insane. they were things that had been approved by personnel previously, but now had a problem with. regional leadership didn't even go to the "resignation" meeting, instead they had other things suddenly pop up right before. the money offered wasn't worth the misery. W was disappointed. We planned to have a talk about finances on a Saturday. we ended up with my daughter that day, and we never got around to it. Sunday night, W got angry because we didn't talk finances. She shut down. with me already in a depression, it became a perfect storm. we sat in silence for a while before I felt I was not wanted. I'd disappointed her; the fear had been realized. She didn't call or text the next day. I assumed she was still extremely mad and she needed time to process without me. Tuesday passed and I heard nothing. Wednesday passed. I received a text from W on Thursday. It said she had been crying for two days, and that she felt I didn't want to marry her anymore. It felt like she was saying she didn't want me anymore, but needed confirmation. I messaged her late that night that I was trying to process everything, that I was stuck in my head and couldn't attempt to talk about anything until I had it straight. I didn't respond to the marriage part because that's not a text message conversation.
I had disappointed her. I was scared to do anything for fear of making the disappointment worse. I wanted to get married. I love her. I love her kids, and she loves my daughter. My fear of disappointing her, not what I felt in me heart, caused me to make the worst decision I've ever made. against my own wants and needs, against my heart, I broke off our engagement. I immediately felt regret. After we hung up, all I could do was cry out "what have I done?" I'd been living in fear of disappointing people all my life. I never had the thought cross my mind that disappointment is going to happen in relationships. I wanted to be perfect, and when I couldn't, I got scared of everything. and I fucked up.
I am the asshole.
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2021.09.25 08:56 pinepage Content creation
You could join PinePage as a content creator since it's cheaper than others and accepts payments with Bitcoin. You could check out its free plan and see for yourself
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2021.09.25 08:56 Mommy-Mel Account logged in somewhere else?
Sometimes when I log out it says “your account has been logged in somewhere else. If this comes as a surprise change your password”. It’s probably nothing but I’ve gotten this error a few times now. At first I changed my password then got Authenticator thanks to guild advice. But now I just got the message again?
Has anyone had this? I didn’t find much in a search and I don’t want to be hacked and banned or something like some of the horror stories I’ve read here.
Thanks for any advice
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2021.09.25 08:56 QWAAAG “iCloud storage almost full”notification wont go away
I received a notification the other day saying my iCloud storage was almost full, that i was using 48 of my 50gb. I bought the next tier of storage, the 200gb, but that warning wont go away. I’ve tried restarting, signing out of iCloud and everything I could think of but its still stuck there.
Do you guys have any ideas on this issue ?
Im running iOS15 on an iphone 12 pro max
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2021.09.25 08:56 n3uplas “It’s peaceful to sit out on the back porch.” The owners selling the house from “The Conjuring” #paranormal
2021.09.25 08:56 Kidd__Video Finally got the bike! Looks like something straight out of Rage/Mad Max :D
2021.09.25 08:56 prawnbiryani 💗☁🍦🌸🧁🤍🦩
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2021.09.25 08:56 MtG_Jamie Ezio Auditore clayfigure
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2021.09.25 08:56 Johnnyorbit @ciarafits
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2021.09.25 08:56 bruhimafrogok How do I avoid getting into the political side of Data Science?
I'm okay to work in a small firm that nobody knows of, I'm okay to work from home if need be, but I don't want to get caught in office politics. I'm just not the kind of person that can handle office politics, it leads me to have panic attacks and breakdowns. Is there any way you can completely avoid that politics and just focus on your job? I know it might sound like I'm a coward, but if being coward means I can preserve my mental peace and spend my mental energy on the actual work rather than other bullshit gossip, then yes I'd love to be a coward.
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2021.09.25 08:56 Yugan-Dali Jallikattu, a Tamil custom
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2021.09.25 08:56 AriSeropian King doom of hearts.
2021.09.25 08:56 sudofizzicle Anti griefing solutions?
RDO has undoubtedly introduced some of the best gaming experiences Ive had. Most of the player base is rooted in honor and helping one another. This game and the comradery has change the way I think about online gaming. I am not interested in online mods for my benefit. In my opinion mods taint the natural experience and grind. However, in the case that a level 640 decides to use teleporting mods and unlimited dynamite arrows to grief lower levels, I have no other choice but to ask for help and or resort to anti griefing mods.. Especially when these people follow you from session to session after blockinig and reporting them. I am not familiar with this community but I am calling on everyone to chime in on the one issue destroying this game. I am willing to get banned fighting fire with fire. I have had it with these griefers. I guess what I am asking of this particular community is, what can I do to protect my lower level friends. What mods if any can ruin a griefers efforts to ruin our experience? Any help is appreciated. DMs are open. Thanks and safe riding! ! !
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2021.09.25 08:56 xeniumReddit Windows 10 Air Quality Updated
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2021.09.25 08:56 BluesBuster What do I need to do to prepare Linux mint cinnamon for installing and using Reaper?
I'm planning to download and install Reaper. I have it working fine on my windows partition but want to be able to use it in my mint installation.
I understand that after I get it going I'll need to jump through some hoops to get non native Linux vst's working but...
What do I need to have done beforehand to prepare my system for a successful first reaper run?
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2021.09.25 08:56 paranoiaenthusiast What's an overrated luxury?
2021.09.25 08:56 agileminion Jakob’s Law revisited: Don’t reinvent the wheel, but sometimes do
2021.09.25 08:56 Mmmaryismyname He transforms by night from Bobczak to Flying Hippo 🤣👨🌜🦛
2021.09.25 08:56 Vixxiee_Peke a tip on how to set up your party!
Parties could really be a hard choice! knowing that there will be a bunch of hard times picking characters for different occasions! So here's a list of things that may come in handy to set up a party:
2021.09.25 08:56 Dolf_Black A nice EDM/Dance playlist for you weekend ! Enjoy and have fun ! [EDM/Dance]
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2021.09.25 08:56 Welson_Liong F you upload.net. The download speed limit on this site is ridiculous. 50kb/s download speed??? Downloading a 1gb file and it will take 5 hours!
If it was 100kb/s then it is slightly acceptable but 50kb/s wtf. And you can only download 1 file every 3 hours plus it will tell you to wait for 30 seconds and complete a recaptcha on every download. I will not pay $6 for a 48 hours premium service only to download files.
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